Helpful v Unhelpful – Dealing with Emotional Pain


Helpful v Unhelpful – Dealing with Emotional Pain

Sad Person Crying with Tear Drop on Cheek

We all experience emotional pain from time to time, whether that’s through a loss or change of some kind, or because of mental illness such as depression or anxiety. Experiencing sadness and grief is a normal response to such situations, and time is a great healer, as most periods of emotional pain will pass with time. However, there are certain things that you can do to help yourself along the way. And there are certain unhelpful behaviours that it is best to avoid.

When experiencing emotional pain it is normal to want to avoid it by indulging in unhelpful behaviours such as eating too much and comfort eating, drinking alcohol, taking recreational drugs or indulging in risky sexual behaviour or encounters. These behaviours make us feel good in the short term, but long-term can be damaging and do not help us to deal with the issue, but rather create further problems down the line. In short, using this types of behaviour to avoid dealing with the problem will not make it go away, much as we might like it to!

A healthier approach is to use some of these methods to help rather than hinder our progress. So going back to basics like eating a healthy diet, eating regularly even when you don’t feel like it, exercising regularly, socialising, spending time doing the things you enjoy, spending time with those you love, and even investing in some new hobbies can provide a welcome distraction from your thoughts and problems for a while. However, this is not the same as avoidance. These behaviours are helpful, and invest in your mental wellbeing in a way that allows you to process the emotions without avoiding the issue.

A lot of people are scared of their own emotions, but sometimes it might even be helpful to really ‘feel’ the feelings associated with your pain, even wallowing in them for a short while may be beneficial to help you process the emotions. Crying is also a great way to release pent-up emotions in a healthy way.

Complementary therapies may also have a role to play in your healing; talking therapies such as counselling or psychotherapy may also help you to process and talk through your problems to provide clarification and closure. Complementary therapies are a good way of nurturing yourself and fostering a good relationship with a therapist who understands you, listens and provides an objective viewpoint. Acupuncture is an especially powerful tool to create emotional and physical shifts and to care for your overall wellbeing.

With loving support,

Louise x

P.S. To read my previous post on Dealing with Grief and Loss click here. To find out more about complementary therapies or acupuncture or to book an appointment phone 01283 516444 (The Natural Healthcare Centre, Burton-on-Trent) or 01332 521270 (The Bridge Centre for Natural Health, Derby).



How to Cope with Emotional Pain. Available here.

7 Practical Strategies to Overcome Emotional Pain. Available here.

Dealing with Grief and Loss. Available here.